Being a black woman, one thing I have noticed about many black people is that we love to jump on a trend, whether we can afford it or not. When I was at uni, every other black girl was rocking Timbs and a Michael Kors bag and every other black guy was rocking those shiny Prada trainers. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having nice things and being on trend, however, within the black community I feel we often have our priorities twisted. At the top of our list is having the nice things so that we can show people, who really don’t care, we have money and at the bottom of our list is planning for not only our future but for our children’s future and our children’s children’s future. Essentially shaping our legacy and building generational wealth comes second place to having the designer shoes and bags now, before we can actually afford them.
As a single woman I am often asked “how’s the man hunt going?”, “when are you going to get a man?”, “have you tried online dating?”. The list is endless, as I am sure many of you in the same position as myself are aware. Often, I find myself explaining to people that I’m not currently looking for a man because I’m actually okay with being single at the moment, to the shock horror of many. Now this isn’t to say that when the right man comes along I won’t be open to a relationship, it’s simply to encourage you not to feel consumed by society’s obsession with relationships. If you’re a single woman let me implore you to enjoy your singleness whilst it lasts.
Some say imitation is the highest form of flattery. So, in a time where you can’t get away from the Kardashians, lip fillers and 30 day bubble butt challenges one might wonder why so many black people are outraged at the sudden rise in popularity of certain aspects of black culture.
In March of this year, the unthinkable happened to me and my family. Everything happened so fast and when the paramedics broke the news it just didn’t seem real, they couldn’t save him… my dad was gone.